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If you have ever attended an event designed to raise awareness of sexual assault and abuse, what did you think of it? Did you feel shocked or moved? Motivated to make your community safer? Or maybe it didn’t work for you, and you wished it had been handled differently.
Events on this theme—like Take Back the Night, Walk a Mile in Her Shoes, and the Clothesline Project—are designed to build a more positive climate around relationship and gender issues. Many college and university campuses and other communities host an event like this every year. In a recent survey by Student Health 101, 72 percent of students who responded said they had helped organize at least one of these events or were open to doing so. Addressing any sensitive theme requires us to recognize and avoid certain pitfalls that could undermine the effectiveness of the message. These tactics will help you plan an inclusive and powerful event.
1. Plan early, plan often
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Find your people
Effective events don’t create themselves. Nor are they planned by just one person. Find allies who represent different communities within your campus. See Find your allies.
Talk about your goals for the event
What are you looking to achieve? For example, you might aim to:
- Recognize and empower survivors of abuse and assault.
- Memorialize or protest specific incidents of assault.
- Reach people who have never engaged with this issue before.
- Get more people involved in a campus or community program or policy.
- Work with administrators to develop campus policy.
- Build connections and unity among people who might not normally find each other.
Talk about how you can meet your goals
- What key messages are you aiming to convey?
- In what ways can you deliver those messages?
- Who does your ideal audience include?
- How can you engage, inspire, and empower your audience?
Talk about how you can address your key themes
- Create a space in which people feel comfortable talking about their experience of sexual assault or related issues they see in your campus community.
- Hold a workshop on sexual empowerment: What this looks like and how to get it.
- Brainstorm about how to work as a community to create more positive sexual and social dynamics.
- Discuss and rally around proposed changes at your college or university that align with the goals of your event.
- Create a more social event in which diverse people feel comfortable and safe together.
Should it be a Take Back the Night event, or another event?
Among sexual assault awareness events, Take Back the Night is the most well known “brand”. Consequently, some people may have certain expectations for what it should be. But planning a Take Back the Night event isn’t very different from planning any other event meant to discuss sexual culture and misconduct. As an organizer, it’s on you to figure out what those expectations are, and discuss them. What should change? What shouldn’t? Ultimately, what’s right for your campus?
2. Find your allies
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When you create a more empowered culture on your campus, everyone benefits. Your event will be far more effective if people from every corner of campus participate and help promote it. Invite other groups to plan and sponsor the event with you.
Look for allies who are:
- United by a common desire to create an empowering event
- Able to help broaden your audience (for example, by telling an unexpected story, performing music, or involving groups who haven’t been part of this before)
- Willing to take on different parts of the planning. What do you and the other organizers need help with?
Look for allies among different campus groups, organizations, and services:
- Social, honour, academic, and service organizations
- Campus women’s centres and gender centres
- LGBTQ+ groups
- Groups representing ethnically and racially diverse students
- Cultural houses and centres
- Religious and faith-based groups
- Residential groups, including RAs, peer educators, and international students
- Athletics clubs and teams
- Arts-based groups (e.g., drama, visual arts, music)
- Campus staff and faculty, such as counselors or victim advocates
- Community organizations and services, including high schools
The importance of inclusion and diversity
In a recent survey by Student Health 101, students recommended ways to make Take Back the Nights more successful. One of their most recurring themes was the importance of diversifying the participant lineup and broadening the audience.
“Have it held in a common ground where more people can be reached, and hold it over a period of days or multiple times a year.”
—Second-year undergraduate, Brandon University, Manitoba
“I think that events which attempt to engage this issue while including people from seemingly different walks of life should be the goal.”
—Practicum graduate, Law Society of Newfoundland and Labrador
“Make student participation in these events more representative of campus populations.”
—Third-year undergraduate, Wheaton College, Massachusetts
“The most effective part was just the sheer numbers of people, including men, that came out.”
—First-year undergraduate, University of Waterloo, Ontario
“More than any individual message I found the collective voices of the community marching together to feel the most empowering.”
—Second-year graduate student, University of Saskatchewan
“I would try to have more outreach as well as include representation from all walks of life, including the LGBTQ community, to show that [sexual assault and misconduct] can happen all the time.”
—Fourth-year online undergraduate, State University of New York, Empire State College
3. Set the right tone
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What kind of tone and mood will help accomplish your goals?
Take Back the Night and similar events can take different moods. An event may be somber (for example, small-group discussions that facilitate spontaneous sharing about personal experiences), or loud (for example, dynamic speakers addressing a sizeable audience).
Include varying stories
Every event on this theme should focus on inclusiveness:
- State explicitly early and often that sexual assault and harassment affect many different kinds of people and do not necessarily conform to a familiar narrative.
- Everyone whose life has been affected by sexual misconduct has their own story. Your event will become more powerful when different people share different stories.
Plan a cohesive itinerary
Any single event can involve several activities. How will the line-up and order of these various elements affect your audience’s emotional experience?
Find an MC
At the event, you will need to make clear who’s helping to guide it. Your MC is not there to dominate the event, but to set the right tone and keep things going smoothly. Consider:
- Who would establish that inclusive tone and messaging?
- Who can deal with things not going according to plan?
- Who might think about how the order of speakers or subjects could open up the event to certain conversations? These themes might include intimate partner violence, catcalling, people becoming sexually active after bad experiences, or what’s important in your campus community.
Anticipate and address possible ethical and legal implications
- Your speakers should be ready and able to convey their experience and message in an effective way. There is always the possibility of unsupportive responses from the audience.
- All organizers should be aware of potential legal liabilities, confidentiality issues, and risk management issues. These can be effectively managed.
- Ask speakers not to share the names or identifying features of alleged perpetrators.
- Talk with your administration in advance about what happens if a participant discloses an assault. Is anyone obligated to report it? Under what circumstances?
- Consider asking staff from your counselling centre to attend in case some participants need support during or after the event.
- Consider your policy on filming or recording the event. It’s not unreasonable to ask people to turn off their cell phones.
- Talk with your fellow organizers about possible media coverage. If it’s fellow students who are reporting for a campus publication, it might be easy to set up ground rules with them ahead of time.
Link to other campaigns and events
TBTN or similar events can be a great opportunity to plan other educational events and promote relevant messages on your campus.
“Sexual assault prevention should aim at infiltrating all campus-wide events in more subtle ways. For example if there’s a concert, maybe have a raffle box where you have to write down why you think it’s important to educate yourself about sexual assault. Having a general atmosphere of intolerance to sexual assault is the most effective in my experience.”
—Fourth-year undergraduate, Quest University, British Columbia
Set the mood through a cohesive itinerary
“They could deviate from current methods of local nurses talking about health, and instead develop events catered to individuals. The event I attended was shown to a variety of different social groups, and it likely didn’t reach [many] of them by trying to be too broad.”
—Third-year undergraduate, University of Manitoba
“I loved ‘Can I kiss you?’, a program the residence I lived in made mandatory. I felt it was very informative while also keeping the audience engaged, and I feel that everyone walked away with things to think about. I also noticed changes in my peers’ behaviour when it came to consent after this.”
—Second-year undergraduate, University of Guelph-Humber, Ontario
“The event featured an improv group. The way they did things by trying to keep the mood light helped me learn about sexual assault prevention better.”
—First-year undergraduate, Johnson & Wales University, Rhode Island
“It’s a serious topic but it doesn’t have to be talked about in an angry manner. Don’t spout a cause, try to have a conversation.”
—Third-year undergraduate, Portland State University, Oregon
Think about gender
“Build a sense of community and let both women and men know that they’re not alone in their prevention efforts.”
—Second-year graduate student, University of Victoria, British Columbia
“I think that it was most effective having males there to show that men can be assaulted too.”
—Third-year undergraduate, Trent University, Ontario
4. Present varied stories
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Some TBTNs are known for powerful accounts of sexual assault shared by their participants. The last thing you want, however, is for participants to feel their stories have to fit a certain mold. Setting an inclusive tone will ensure that more people feel comfortable sharing their varied stories.
As you think about your goals, you may want to approach some people ahead of time to be speakers at the event. Seeking out varied stories from diverse people can be a subtle way to create a more welcoming space—a crucial element of a positive campus climate in which everyone feels empowered. Speakers’ themes could include:
- Difficult experiences: stories of intimate partner violence or abuse, nonconsensual sexual acts, childhood experiences, harassment, and so on
- Empowerment: how they got out of a bad relationship or survived a sexual assault
- Recovery: what activities, messages, and resources helped them feel like themselves
Diverse speakers and participants
Lots of different people have personal experience with sexual violence and want to end it. Survivors can be of any gender, sexual orientation, or age. Some may have been assaulted as children, others as adults. Ensure that your event includes and supports people who describe and address different kinds of experiences in different ways. Include men and transgender people.
Understand the power of stories
“The personal stories were very moving. In particular, I appreciated the amount of young people, both male and female, that attended and showed support and understanding of this important issue.”
—Fourth-year undergraduate, University of New Brunswick
“I think survivors stories are extremely effective.”
—Second-year undergraduate, University of Guelph, Ontario
“I found it was extremely helpful to hear other survivor’s stories. As a survivor myself of an emotionally abusive relationship, as well as sexual assault on campus, it reminded me that it doesn’t have to be an isolated healing process.”
—Fourth-year graduate student, Southern Alberta Institute of Technology
“The most effective [aspect] was messages from survivors. Survivors’ stories remind us how sexual and gender-based violence are always closer than we think.”
—First-year undergraduate, University of Ottawa, Ontario
Include hopeful stories
“A woman shared her life story with us at one event about how all her life, no matter what age or situation, she seemed to find herself in a bad position in regards to being sexually assaulted. She overcame and now runs a program to help others who experience the same things.”
—Fourth-year graduate student, Southern Alberta Institute of Technology
Make it easier to share
“It was effective to hear survivor stories in a safe space. We were sitting in auditorium seats with the lights very low. Anyone could start sharing their stories without feeling like everyone’s eyes were on them.”
—Third-year graduate student, University of Delaware
5. Make it about more than speaking
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Personal stories are at the centre of almost every TBTN or similar event. But they shouldn’t be the whole picture. Think of any good event that you’ve been to—even a talk about a serious subject. Was there food? Something to drink? Music? Did the event planners actively involve the audience? There’s no reason why your event shouldn’t have all these things. There are lots of models for successful events. It’s up to you and your fellow planners to figure out what’s right for your campus.
Some options include:
- A speak-out with music between every few speakers
- A march followed by snacks to encourage people to stay for conversation
- Conversation in a comfortable room where people can share their stories over hot chocolate
- Creative projects that address the themes in fresh or surprising ways (such as the Clothesline Project, which uses a display of clothing to push back on the myth that victims of sexual assault are responsible because of what they wear or say or do)
- Workshops or teach-ins on being an effective bystander or supporting a friend
And don’t forget about ending the event! Help your audience wind down and feel hopeful. This could be another opportunity to bring in music, especially something that everyone can participate in. In addition, ensure that people who may need support know where to get it.
Make it interactive
“Events where I was participating rather than just spectating were most effective at teaching me new ideas and concepts. I remember this one event in which everyone was put in groups and we all shared our own experiences, laughed, cried, and bonded. I felt that was one of the most powerful learning moments in my life.”
—Fourth-year undergraduate, California State University, San Marcos
Promote actionable strategies
“I think what I took away the most is that you have to be there and offer support for survivors and let them decide what, if anything, they feel comfortable sharing. I think this had the biggest effect because it sounds like such a simple thing but giving that support space can be really important.”
—Fourth-year undergraduate, University of Guelph, Ontario
Find different ways to say it
“I went to the Clothesline Project and I thought that the personal messages that each victim wrote on each shirt were very powerful. Their stories affected me and seemed so real and awful.”
—Second-year graduate student, University of North Dakota
Wind down and wrap up
“The night would have been more effective if there was a debriefing after everyone shared their stories. Everyone who spoke was willing to be open and raw, so it is important to wrap up in a way that alleviated the heaviness. Take Back the Night should end in a way that is productive and hopeful of change.”
—Graduate student, University of Delaware
Provide resources for follow-up
“More resources should be provided, like take-home brochures, or access to online resources.”
—Fourth-year undergraduate, University of Toronto, Ontario
6. If you want to keep it simple
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A costume-making party
Instead of people feeling like they have to put together a costume at the last minute for Halloween or some other event, and feeling uncomfortable in another sexy toga, you and friends can pool money to make costumes together. Felt, feathers, and paper can make a Robin Hood, iPhone, or any other number of easy costumes that people can feel comfortable and empowered in. Search online for costume ideas.
Have you ever heard hooking up or sex described as being like eating a pizza? People decide together what toppings they’d like. They eat as much of eat pizza as they want. The pizza metaphor is less competitive and aggressive than the old metaphor that sex is like baseball (second base, home run, etc.). To host a consensual pizza-making event, stock up on pizza fixings, get access to an oven, and invite people to talk about consent. They’ll come for the food and stay for the conversation.
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